EAT in the Kitchen!
Billy loved to talk.
He talked to anybody, about anything anytime.
Between mouthfuls of catsup sauce covered meatloaf,
mashed potatoes and snap beans he entertained the dinner guests.
This time he told of meeting a nice colored lady.
She smiled and said hello to him, at Martin’s Grocery store on the corner.
He did not get far in his telling, before his grandpa looked up from his plate,
cleared his throat and barked, “EAT in the kitchen.
EAT in the kitchen, now.”
Billy sputtered, “But why, why?”
Grandpa roared a command that would hush a grown man.
“Don’t try me boy. Do as you are told.”
Forks kept clinking against plates, as if no one heard their interaction.
Billy sat mutely at the wooden table in the kitchen.
No longer hungry.
Following dinner his mom sloshed dinnerware, with soapy dishwater in the deep ceramic sink.
Billy moved close to her side and whispered, “Ma, what did I do wrong?”
She quietly answered, “Well, boy, not much.
Grandpa just didn’t like what you said about that colored woman.”
Confused Billy mumbled, What about her?”
Sighing, she matter-of-factly stated. “Child, just remember when around Grandpa,
do not call colored women-LADIES.
Unless you want to EAT in the kitchen.

10/9/2026
The Words That Got to Me
Forks kept clinking against plates, as if no one heard their interaction. *Ahhh, yes; if we pretend everything's okay, then it is... Billy sat mutely at the wooden table in the kitchen. No longer hungry. *This breaks the heart of the teacher in me. mom sloshed dinnerware, with soapy dishwater in the deep ceramic sink. *more of the 'just carrying on' in the light of the elephant in the room. do not call colored women-LADIES. *wow. That felt like such a sickening punch in the throat.
One of my favorite t-shirts I ever owned showed four-year-old boys, one black, one white, with their arms around each other's shoulders, heads touching, HUGE smiles on their faces. The words beneath read: No one is born a bigot. This poignant poem explains that in fluorescent color. But, in your Supreme Teacher way, you offered up no narrative, you simply told the story and let us see the ugliness for ourselves and draw our own conclusion. And that is exactly what I have always loved best about your poetry: it stares the reader down and dares us to blink or look away. You present the reality and watch to see what we'll do with it. You make US do the hard work, the squirming, the realizing. And we're better for it. Smarter, burned, but ultimately more aware and less able to pretend. That takes a special kind of touch, and you are the quintessential spokesmodel for it. I can't tell you how I miss your poetry. I LOVE when you contribute. Your work is very special. I appreciate how it makes me so much more worldly-wise. Thank you for that gift. xoxoxo